Story of a lonely lady

Women a creation of god who knows to sacrifice all and give all even when she need the most. The one who nutures even sheding her blood. One who gives affection nad has attachments to all. The one who indulges love in a person may it be another woman, a kid, a son , a dughter, a husband. An idol of kindness and care.

A woman is always asked for every thing but has nothin is return for all her deeds. She never expetcs either. But as a human being somewhere in life she wil also have her expectations, wil need a love and care in certain stages of life not for the returns of what she did but atlest for her to keep her self motivated.

Motivation is one food which everyone needs why do we deprive a women of it. From centuries a woman has been struggling to make her position in life, to get recognition, to prove that she can compete with the men equally. And rightly she has proved her capabilities and today has all that she wants but somehwere the definition of woman has changed n has lost its meaning.

A woman now is just a face of cosmetics, an emotions of brands, care with interest rates and has nothin to give unless expectations are fulfilled. Its not the woman to be blamed its the world who has left so much pain for her that being strong has meant being ignorant for her.

A few have still the touch of the same old creation of god which can be called as the second creator after god. But today women only hav position, freedom, but have lost all the aspects for which god has actually created them. Women are still lonely inspite of having all that they need.

Who is to be blamed? Is it the men always or is it the women herself? Answers change with everyones perspective but the loss is suffered by the women herself and the next generation. Women wil be a xerox of men. Kids will miss the affection. Women wil be lost in the rat race.

Lady id still lonely.........................

No 1 Killed Jessica??????????

"No 1 Killed Jessica" an awesome movie with grt direction and also grt job by the star cast. This movie has a depth that u need to feel. Until this movie was watched may be at-least 60% of viewers had no idea that this issue was so serious, to speak the truth i too was one among those 60% for whom it was just another issue like any other which flashed in news because of some stupid politicians who create a mess.

What we need to think is that there must be so many Jessicas till now which we don't know about. Its not because media did not put it across to us but because we in our lives fail to fight for ourselves or even go against the bad system. Til when will we wait for the person in-charge to lead us n get us what we want? Not every time there will a MEERA meant for us.

When its not someone close to us or someone we know we hardly bother about it. But when it is, we are shaken up and fight back and curse who wont help us or be a part of it. Why do we expect that whole world must sympathize with us when we care a damn about others?

The protest put forth in this movie shows that public can create a difference. The unity in India is mind blowing one must only ignite the spark. We  need to wake up now, we cannot wait for any MEERA to take the show or any JESSICA to be victimized. There are so many issues that need to be solved in our country if the citizens take charge all the bad will be swept off.

Issues like corruption, bribing start because we want it to happen. Because we want to grab it by reservation or favors. Bad politicians survive because 70% people feel its better to rest at home then stand in line to press one button, because 50% feel we have other important work to do and 40% feel "what the hell will my one vote do??" After all this y do we sit at home and fire bad words to the system? When we have a chance we simply let it go but when its time to point out every one's finger are high up in the air.

Worlds on a fast-track , changes are happening at nano seconds, needs are increasing but we are still. Waiting for another issue to read and another victim to watch. People its high time. We need to realize that "Public bana sakti hai toh kisiki Phad bhi sakti hai" .i.e "if we can praise someone to heights we can drop down that same person from same height"

The day when we learn to fight back not just when it comes to us but for every bad thing that happens we will shine. that will be the day when the system will be clean and country will be truly democratic. The power is "US" not the ones who rule. they rule bcz we want them to rule.

I have learned my part from this movie have u? Are u stil waiting for another Jessica or ___________(fill watever name u want) to be victimized? Are u waiting for it to be u? felt the cold shiver? Don't wait til ur daughters get raped or ur son's get thrown off his academic seat because of some powered person or u get jailed for being sincere and honest. Wake up from ur slumbers, Create a difference. Stop being a part of bad system. Vote the right people. Speak against the bad. Make your place yourself. don't be a victim and don't victimize either. Not just the youth but its time for one and all to fasten their seat belts and thrive to make a system which is - "meant for the people from the people and by the people", which is only in books and jurisdiction.

Move onto the fast-tracks catch the pace of the changing world.  Let the powers be in ur hands and not in the hands of those dirty politicians for whom we r just another puppet.

Make world a better place to live not a bitter place. Let peace and serenity prevail.

Sweet moments captured!!

22nd Oct 2010 Last day in college, last day of the last bench fun, to pull each others legs in class. The classroom fun that u have.. It was not just classroom but for us it was anyplace where the class was together had to be fun. Just 18 of us in class but it was like a family!! The family was more of females ;) :p But the 6 boys were not less for a strength of 12 ladies.

 A class is usually of just teenage students but we had a mixture of mothers, married ladies, spinsters and also very soon getting married again ladies.. but the boys oh they were strictly BACHELORS. A class where all had problems as individual but they were solved as a class.

The very first week of our course, the time when all were pockets and the times now u will definitely notice the difference. Even in the first week there were some problems for the class n some individuals but the class stood by ever person who felt weak, who needed support.

One among us was ASCII that was the pet name for him by class. He was one chap who all used to bug. Oh yes ME too "THE HOGGER OF PCCE" that's what they called me. Every one had earned a tag by now all had a pet name given by the class. The comments on FB, the fights on FB. there was no place where u would not find ur mates around u. Anytime any day with u and for u, for ur studies, submissions or anything they were always there..

The moments of pain, the difficult times were no more sad n troublesome when u entered the class. No matter how sad u were or how stressed u were ur mates were always ready to put ur smile back on ur face! A million dollar smile but the unique smile a lady had is our "BABY DOLL". The most fun loving person in our class "JINI IN THE BOTTLE". The favorite time pass of the girls was lunch time when we had our grandma telling us stories.. hehe yes the "CHANNA GIRL". How can we forget the "POET KHAN" who wrote poems for all of us on FB.

So many moments to pen down each one so unique n sweet in itself that u just cant miss on it. The moments we shared in these 3 semesters must not go untold because these days have been the best days after my school days.. The moments when we shared every emotion and turned the negatives into positives and the positives more positive :) 

Hats off to a class that has been so sweet,help full,encouraging and fun loving!!

Guys this is just to say thanks to all the days we had together, no matter where we go and how far we travel these memories will be close to my heart forever.

Mega to mini... Now Mini to Micro...

Technical world have advanced from mega to micro. The sizes have reduced but the storage has increased. And so have the families in India. The large joint families broke down into nuclear families but now they are heading to just an atom. Life is so busy? People have become busy to earn luxuries, become technically advanced. The more money the more pleasure. Is this really true? Earning luxury is never wrong but losing what u have? have u checked on that? There is so little time for the family. Staying under one roof its difficult to see the other members. 

Work and salaries have taken us away from our home, families, love. We are so involved in working for ourselves that the bond we shared with our family has become weak. Technically we are connected with our families, our loved ones over phone but what has got this need? have u ever thought over it? India has a very rich culture, valuable teachings which are lost in this technical world. Its India who has had the largest families and the strongest bonds shared. If these values are not preserved there wil be a day where a family will only be in history books and an individual human robot will be living. With no emotions only logic. India has a culture which is valued by the whole world because there is logic in emotions. Without this human will only be a dry leaf swept off by winds.

Value what we have before its late!!!

Lonliness....

Why do we at times feel so lonely even wen u have dozens of friends around u? Why is it that even wen u r in crowd u want to be left alone? Y all fear being a "lonely soul"?

Some people fear being alone while some just want to be left alone. Is this something to do with the mental state? does this mean the mind is stressed out? If it is then y do we want to be alone and stress it more thinkin about wats stressing u?

Sometimes we feel like strolling alone on some calm place where the nature is at its best n the air is fresh. But sometimes we want to be surrounded by people, to talk to them and release our stress. If stress can be released wen u speak it out then how can it be done being alone? The fear of loneliness makes us close to groups and crowd but the same crowd n groups become a nuisance sometimes.

:) loneliness is just wen u feel u can solve it on your own n need some space n time to reflect!! Being lonely is nothing bad. Your mind is just saying "hey come along lets deal with it"  In fact your never alone wen u have your reflections along.. And wen u know u need help from someone else we speak to people who u think can help u... Stop being depressed and enjoy your loneliness!! :)

Evaluate Yourself!!

Have you ever evaluated yourself? sounds strange? Try it.. Simple steps to know yourself better.. We spend hours and life knowing and understanding others but how far do we know Our self? can u grade urself? can u stand out and say " hey i have 70/100" ?

A lot of people always bother about others opinion, their comments and then will get shattered or flattered. We need not depend how society judge us. Infact why do we need to know wat others think of us why cant we be our own judge?

As an individual we have our own identity which may not be strong enough to stand out in crowd. You may not be famous, may not be known my many people but as person u stil have ur score as 40. Ur designation, Ur attitude, Ur history will add up to make it 20 and another 20 from the society. Now is it really required that we beg for the remaining 40 also from the society? wont it be great if we work towards it?


"How" is your question? Every time you evaluate your self be sincere in accepting your mistakes. Do what your are good at and what u think u can do. Try what u cant do. It may be difficult but not impossible. Nothing is impossible and nobody is perfect. So do your mistakes but don repeat them another time. A mistake is done once. Do not value judge your ans as yes OR no, Good OR bad, it may not always make sense. Be aware of the changes happening around you, for that u have to be quick enough to perceive the changes and reflect on them. If u fail any time heaven sake don feel its the end of the world, be calm and think on what went wrong and how u can improve over it. Even if u fail society wil reject u but thats only the 20 u lose and u stil have your 60 with u which is not bad. Ur attitude are like roots of a tree and your responses and actions are the leaves and branches. If the leaves or branches are cut u can still survive because your roots are still firm. Be a good listener because he who listens gets the ans floating. When u compete do it with your self because no 1 else can be at the same level as u r whit the same skill level. Do not impress any one no 1 needs it. Every one forgets it pretty soon. Impress yourself.

Treat urself as a king wen u win but don forget to be a slave when u r learning. Learn as much as u can from the mistakes and failures. It will only cost u some pain but remember we want the remaining 40.  Some pain for gain is fine.

What others feel about u is just a feedback which can be ignored if irrelevant. How others judge u is immaterial its just a means to know where u fall short for ur 40. Remember "U must have a critic as ur neighbor" let them criticize, u just work on where u have to grow.

Mark a level for yourself to reach and make sure u achieve it. Work sincerely and honestly. decide what is right and wrong. Work in your domain because what is right for u may be wrong for some one else. Believe in urself, try to do what u hate to do. Learn to manage without any help. fall down if required but rise with greater impact to hit back. Remember ho w u learned to ride your bicycle? how proud u were to ride it without any help.

"U r the sculptor of your life". U decide how u want to live your life. Live as a king stand out in the crowd or be one among the crowd and be lost where no 1 knows u and values u and u always cry about who said what to u. "Barking dogs seldom bite" so go ahead and find your way to be unique in the crowd."Be the diamond in the coal mine". Don worry about the critics they are meant to gossip and help u rise. Without they criticizing, u will not have your score rising. Just like without a 0, 100 has no meaning.

For the readers: Any more insights on this are always welcome... Even an average person can win. If u win a bicycle or u win a skoda u r still the winner but don stop on winning a bicycle go ahead and win ur skoda.

Sharp turns!!

Life is said to take sharp turns.. what are the turns? Is it wen u move from sadness to happiness o vice versa? Being in a comfort zone for long makes a human mind adjust to it. It then becomes a place of dwelling and being in happy moments. All that changes even a lilttle for a human in that comfort zone is termed as sharp turn even if its never been a turn at all. Humans lose their state of mind wen there is a shift in their comfort zone.

Comfort Zone is not defined anywhere. Its the smal room or lines that humans draw around our self and define in that the ways or methods or things that make humans happy or sad. If its sad the lines seem to have been shifted drastically and if its happiness they are still the same. Being in comfort zone is not bad but we also need to be out of it sometimes to keep growing. Sometimes we are so insane that we forget to perceive the changes around us. The changes which humans must be aware of to shift tracks which will definitely bring growth to humans.

Shifting tracks is when a human must perceive the change and change to adjust to that environment. Sticking to the same room created by him only keeps the growth stagnant and then there are statements such as "Why on earth am I the one suffering?" "Why it has to be me always?"

Humans become pessimist. Issue is how do we perceive these changes? Answer is very simple.Open mindedness, reviewing the standards, awareness and a strong positive attitude towards any situation makes it easy. But alas most of us have our mind shut with the rules and standards the society decides for us.

And hence it a sharp turn for us.. We fail to respond quick enough to the changes happening around us at the same speed as they happen.Life is not so sharp that it cuts you down in pieces. Its just turned sharp enough to change and for you to perceive.